Note September 2025: This post was originally written in May 2008. Since then I have kept on making changes in it, especially in terms of adding things. Over the years I have continued to collect a lot more information about Sonali-Rossellini story. I have also been in contact with Raja Dasgupta, Sonali's elder son, as well as with some of other persons from their families and friends.
I feel that all the books written on this theme are mostly about Roberto Rossellini while Sonali appears as a minor element in them, while her husband Harisadhan is completely missing. I am working on a book that looks at from the point of view of Sonali and her family, aiming to finalise it by 2026. For example, now I am aware that to be a child growing up in the Rossellini household was traumatic and most children of Roberto with his different women, including Sonali's children, had difficult lives.
For my book, I am looking for information about Sonali's life in Rome during 1990s and early 2000s - if you knew Sonali or her children and are willing to talk to me, do contact me. If you have any additional information about this story that you can share, send me an email at: sunil.deepak(at)gmail.com (substitute (at) with @ in the email) or contact me through Facebook or Twitter or Instagram, through the links in the column on the right.
Thanks for your collaboration.
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Introduction
I had heard in the past about the famous Italian film director Roberto Rossellini and his Indian wife, Sonali. But I hadn’t really thought about it in any way. It had all happened when I was a baby and I hadn’t even realised that at that time there was a big scandal about their affair.
Roberto Rossellini had become famous for his films in the 1940s. He would have been mostly forgotten by general public, had it not been for his affair with the Hollywood star Ingrid Bergman in early 1950s, which had made him an international celebrity. His affair with Bergman had created a big scandal because she was married and the mother of a small baby. Rossellini had gone to stay in their home as a guest and in the end run off with the woman.
Rossellini's affair with Sonali was similar - she was married and had small children, and her film-director husband, Harisadhan, hero-worshipped him as an idol.
I rediscovered their story a few days ago when I read an article about the new book of Dileep Padgaonkar (Under her spell: Roberto Rossellini in India, Viking, 2008) at the Jabberwock blog, and read about the Roberto-Sonali love story. Jabberwock had written: “It was a relationship that caused an uproar in the Indian press at the time, Baburao Patel’s invective being only the most florid example of the many reports that appeared in newspapers and magazines. Eventually, Rossellini had to leave the country under duress... Perhaps Under her Spell is just a little too dry and restrained though, given that at the centre of this story is a tempestuous affair that complicated the lives of many people. We don't really learn that much about the Roberto-Sonali relationship, what drew them to each other and how the bond gradually deepened, and Padgaonkar is also reticent about their later years together.” Sonali-Rossellini Affair
Reading the review of Padgaonkar's book, stimulated my curiosity so I looked around on internet for more information about this story. It had all happened in 1957. Roberto Rossellini had come to India in December 1956.
At that time, Roberto was 51 and Sonali was 29 years old. She was married to Harisadhan Dasgupta, a respected documentary film director, 33 years old at that time, who was a close friend and associate of Satyajit Roy. She had two children when this happened, her younger son Arjun was only a few months old.
The reports said that Sonali had arrived late one night at Taj Mahal hotel with her younger son in her arms.
Pandit Nehru, India’s prime minister at that time, who had invited Roberto to India for making a film, had helped the three of them to leave India for Rome, where they had got married and Roberto had legally adopted Sonali’s younger son. In India, Harisadhan Dasgupta had reacted by registering a police FIR for his missing wife. Later Roberto & Sonali had a daughter, Raffaella. Roberto died 20 years later, in 1977.
Questions in My Mind
The more information I found, the more intrigued I was. Sonali, Roberto, Harisadhan and their children, had all been part of deep emotional cyclone but I was most curious about Sonali. She had two sons, but she could take only one son with her. That must have been terrible for her as a mother. It must have been equally terrible for the son who was left with his father. Kind of Sophie’s choice, except that this was no fiction.
How did Harisadhan feel about his wife not just leaving him for another man, older man at that, taking their son with her? How did they settle it, since Sonali couldn’t have married Roberto without a proper divorce from Harisadan? And how could Roberto legally adopt Sonali’s younger son, without her ex-husband’s consent? So this means that after their escape from India, Sonali and Roberto must have been in contact with Harisadhan in some way.
I remember my first journey to Italy in late nineteen seventies. There were very few foreigners living in Italy, there were no Asian shops, no Bengali communities, few who spoke English. How did Sonali fit in there?
Usually when lovers meet, they stand against the setting sun and it is supposed to end with “and they lived happy and content ever after...”, yet that is where marriages begin. So after the sunset, once the flash bulbs stopped, once the level of ho-ha lowered, how did Sonali feel? How did the young boy feel, once he grew up and realised he had a father and elder brother in India?
I
could not find the answers to these questions on internet. Padgaonkar's
book did not talk about these. So I decided to dig in deeper.
Searching for Additional Information
All these questions were going around in my head as I searched for answers. I could piece together many things because I could search in English and Italian, as well as some minor sources in Spanish and French that gave crucial information. This search was exclusively through internet.
I didn’t find much about the emotional part of this story and perhaps it is better that way since I can imagine that even after all these years, many of these memories must be still very painful for all those who are still alive. Roberto died in 1977. Harisadhan Dasgupta died in 1996 or around that. Sonali's son, Arjun/Gil died in 2008 and Sonali died in 2014. However, their other children are around and probably they carry the scars of this event.
Rossellini's Film-Work in India
In 1956, Ingrid Bergman had restarted work in Hollywood with films like Anastasia, for which she received an Oscar and probably her relationship with Roberto was in crisis.
According to Palmira, Roberto’s gardener’s wife, Ingrid was supposed to go to India, to join Roberto in 1957. Instead, she decided to do a film with Lars Schmidt, who later became her third husband, while Roberto came back from India with Sonali.
Roberto was in India for almost 11 months, refusing to look at famous monuments and rather preferring to take a non-exotic view of India, by looking at lives of common persons.
The Indian stay of Roberto led to two works, a documentary film “India – Matri Bhumi” (1959) and a TV mini-series “India vista da Rossellini” (India seen by Rossellini, 1959) broadcasted in Italy and France. The mini-series "India seen by Rossellini" broadcast in 10 episodes was produced jointly by India, Italy and France.
The episodes of the TV series were titled: India without myths, Bombay Gateway to India, Architecture & costumes of Bombay, Varsova, Towards the south, Lagoons of Malabar, Kerala, Hirakud dam on river Mahadi, Pandit Nehru & Animals in India.
“India – Matri Bhumi” was a film in 4 parts. The first part took a lyrical look at the daily life of a mahout (elephant handler). Part two was about an East Bengal refugee who is working on a dam and after the work is finished, he is relocated to another construction site. Part three was about an elderly person contemplating nature in a jungle and finally, part four is about a monkey owner dying from heat and the monkey looking for another owner.
Sonali's Life in Italy
Palmira, Roberto’s gardener’s wife said: “Sonali was more solitary compared to Ingrid. However friendship between Ingrid and Roberto remained. Even after their divorce, Ingrid came with her third husband Lars to the Rossellini villa. At that time, Roberto’s financial situation was not good and the villa had been indebted to the bank which had given credit to Roberto. Ingrid even asked Lars to buy that villa to help Roberto.”
Sonali was an aspiring actress when she had got married to Harisadhan Dasgupta. She had studied at Shantiniketan university and Bimal Roy was her mama (mother's brother).
Conclusion
It was a love story between Rossellini and Sonali, with a happy ending, or so it would seem.
Yet, that happy ending was inextricably linked with pain and suffering for many of the protagonists. It would make for a wonderful novel, one of those melodramatic tomes that we feel are so unbelievable.
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